Since Tumblr apparently swallowed my last ask, I 100% think that Hera and Kanan were together, behind closed doors, and as married as could be without officiality. It was just that they promised to not let it get in the way of work, to keep it separate, and as the years passed their responsibilities grew greater and consumed every spare moment. Every moment was meetings or missions or training and suddenly a short moment in an alley is their only time alone when they used to honeymoon on Rion.

So Kanan gets insecure, probably because he senses they have a baby on the way. He’s no longer okay with this “keep work and life separate” thing because work has become EVERYTHING and it’s not good enough anymore. And Hera can’t even imagine a life outside war, she’s getting too wrapped up in the cause and it’s his job to pull her back before she destroys herself. So he’s asking her to break the current arrangement, to be loving regardless of consequence, for them and their baby.

yeah i do see that!  

most of what we see of them in s4 i understand the tensions there, it’s just that the climax scene (aka the one i just posted) runs contrary to everything else??  it’s just really off and at least left me feeling like i got a resolution that doesn’t really make sense for them